M37B: Should we optimize for smaller, highly engaged Close Friends circles or larger, moderately engaged circles?

Source: Lewis C. Lin’s Newsletter

The counterintuitive insight here—that creators optimizing for engagement metrics are actually playing a frequency game, not a intimacy game—reveals a deeper tension in social platforms: the algorithm rewards *consistent presence* over *genuine connection*, which structurally punishes the small-circle strategy even when it delivers superior per-viewer depth. This explains why influencer culture increasingly feels like performance for strangers rather than communication with friends, despite the rhetoric of “authentic community.”